Date Posted: 12/6/2012 11:33:21 AM
Posted By: Brendah Aroko Membership Level: Gold Total Points: 3317
A secret is something that you hide from everyone else, you would not want it to be heard by others either because you feel ashamed of it or because you made a promise not to tell. It is not easy to keep secrets but at times we are forced to carry the burden of hiding some things from people.I doubt if there are people who are like open books, who have no secrets and who have no skeletons in their closets.Why would you keep a secret and for how long can you keep it. It can be for days, years a few hours or even some minutes but there are some secrets that are kept for a whole eternity.Those people who have kept secrets for so long tend to be very preservative, they don't just open up to people and they are the kind of people who have never been very social to such an extent as to tell their personal issues to others.I personally can keep secrets for very long. This is because I don't like talking about the things I consider personal to the people around me. It is really embarrassing when everyone knows all your dirty laundry and airs them in public. You can just imagine the stares that follow you when you walk around, the whispers that you hear when you pass by and the notes that people pass to each other when you are around. It creates a sort of unease that you find really difficult to keep up with.There are some people we can't seem to keep anything from. Like our parents. Parents know us inside out and they can tell when we withhold anything from them. At times they will just let it go but at times they can see our deepest worries and start looking for the cause of our sadness.We cannot hide the truth from our spouses as well this because there is that connection that we have towards them that they cannot fail to know when we are going through something and we are not sharing it with them.Some of the effects of keeping secrets include but are not limited to the following:Feeling uneasy when you are around the person you are keeping the secret from, making up lies to cover up for the thing that you are hiding, feeling guilty when that person calls you to chat or when they inquire some things from you,lack of words when you are asked anything to do with the secret you have been keeping and also fear of socializing with others because you imagine that you might end up losing your mind and saying everything.Keeping secrets is a habit that causes the person so much pain especially because he or she will try to isolate himself or herself from the public and they will always be cautious of what they say in fact they will not easily interact with those around them.
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