How to mollify an emotionally fragile person

  

Date Posted: 12/19/2012 6:58:52 AM

Posted By: NyaxDa  Membership Level: Silver  Total Points: 376

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You walk into a room, and even before you can say ‘hi’, someone explodes from nowhere, straight to you, his eyes red and boiling in anger. This induces a yellow alert whenever you see such a person. He inundates you with endless questions that leave you puzzled and rooted to the ground without any attempt to involve him in analyzing the first five questions. The questions involve the simplest one, which is why you are late, to criticizing your changing behavior. He even threatens to beat you up, in case you try to respond, because your answers ‘make him mad at you’. A person like this one is an example of those who we call the ‘fiery-tempered’ people.

It is hard to negotiate with them when it comes to arguments, no matter how hard you try. You have to use predefined criteria to carefully select your words before you spit it out because each word has a dramatic effect on the chemistry change in his nerves, either positive or negative (very likely). This can indeed make your life sound like hell, but fortunately, there are ways on how to counteract this in case you are entangled in this trying situation.

Remain Calm

Most people think that to shout back at them will not only intimidate them, but also learn from your aggressiveness and be submissive from that moment onwards – wide off the track, dear! Instead of working in accordance to the expectations, it will in fact cause more harm than good. The level of adrenaline in his body will rise with immediate effect and he may turn out to be physically violent and can cause physical harm, and even cause death! Remember these kind of people are very dangerous, and some distance may be required here. Remaining calm may reduce the tension

in him and make him relaxed. He might shout at you in a very rude way, but he will finally cool down. This is because the stimulus that can push the level of his adrenaline level in his body is no more, and therefore, no need to shout. It is also a sign of maturity and respect to him, of which, if he is sensible enough, he will appreciate it.

Confront the argument in a friendly manner

Although he might be so angry, telling him to cool down first then solve the problem in a friendly way will sound peaceful rather than yelling at them, telling him whether to cool down or solve the problem himself. Even if he may blame you, though it may not be true, don’t show any sign of self defense, because if you go that way, he might feel defeated in the argument, leading to further anger. Accept any mistake AT THE MOMENT. Anyway, he will realize his mistake later. And he might need to be molly-coddled at the moment to cool him down.

Solve the problem and keep it between you two

Maybe you were right. Is there any need to gossip about him about his mistake? Remember that, whatever you say even under the bed in your bedroom might be carried away by a bird and disclose to him. And, whichever way should the gossip reach his ears, it will be the worst thing you have done to him in that case. Keep it locked within you. It won’t cost you anything to do so. Finally, the person will get along with you well. Anyway, what will the person you share the gossip help you?

I hope with these four tips, you will be able to deal with such people in society.

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