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Effective communication: Bad listening habits you need to drop
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4/11/2018 12:06:38 PM
Posted By: Chiry Membership Level: Silver Total Points: 297
and postures completely demoralize one from sharing their story.
d) Insensitive listening- This is based on facts rather than feelings. It is totally inconsiderate to the other party's feelings. Instead of sympathizing with the other person, one is totally unconcerned with the weight of their story. When listening to a sad story about how one lost their loved one, responses like he was too sick anyway, or he was way too old are definitely very inappropriate and Insensitive. one should be a concerned listener who actually cares about what their counterpart is talking about. No one would enjoy telling a story to a very Insensitive listener.
e) Listening defensively- This is listening while feeling like the other party is attacking or offending you. Instead of concentrating on what they have to say, you are busy thinking of how you can defend yourself. This is a big destruction and one ought to know that the other person's story completely has nothing to do with you. Listen objectively with a will to actually offer any help necessary. That's why the person came to you in the first place, because they need your help, right? The last thing on their mind is to actually judge or attack you and understanding this is necessary in order to be a better listener.
f) Constantly interrupting and pre-stating someone's points- This is actually very irritating and it could eventually make one to stop telling their story. Constant interruption is the best way to kill an intimate conversation. It simply shows that one is not patient enough to listen to every detail of the story. They are just not interested. As a good listener one should listen patiently without jumping into conclusions that are usually wrong most of the time. If you agreed to listen, then listen.
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